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Mediation ... Is it for you?
If you're thinking of separating, or if you already have, there are many decisions that you and your partner must face as you move to the next phase of your life. Until recently, all matters concerning separation or divorce were handled by attorneys, one for each party, and they fought it out.
Divorce mediation is a non-adversarial approach that promotes cooperation and self determination by the people involved. This process assists partners in creating mutually beneficial, legally binding agreements which address property division, spousal support, child support and shared parenting.
My spouse and I are fighting! How can we mediate?
You don't have to be best friends to mediate. All that's required is the willingness to look for a fair way to settle the issues that must be decided. Many people find that mediation helps them to communicate better. Statistics show that a couple's involvement in the decision-making process leads to ownership and increased incentive to follow through with the agreements they design.
How is mediation different!
It eliminates the aggressive litigation and blame games. You acknowledge your disappointment, and recognize the need for ongoing cooperation. A neutral mediator helps you focus on the future and assists you in redesigning your lives by attending to the issues that need to be resolved.
How does the mediator help the couple emotionally?
When couples are locked in habitual emotional patterns, mediators assist in drawing distinctions between feelings, needs and wants. They focus on the issues at hand and help the couple to create mutually acceptable solutions. Mediation supports an on-going process of emotional healing and disentanglement.
Does mediation work for everyone?
No, but it works for most couples, and not just for couples who already know how to cooperate. Mediators assist people to collaborate in spite of their history. It does require that each party be willing to speak truthfully and accept responsibility for their life. The rewards are worth it.
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